“Social media self-esteem” is a condition I’m coining and it appears to be at an all-time high, especially in millennials. Millennials have endured and thrived under modern technology. Social media has advanced us in many ways and connected people across continents. Everything is accessible. Everything is now, right now. While we have enjoyed the fruits of social media, we are socially and emotionally affected.
Nothing’s better than a great group of girlfriends. I mean ride or die girlfriends. After watching the recently released movie Girl’s Trip with my “Flossy Posse”, I was inspired to write this blog. Being around a positive group of females is good for our well-being. They teach us how to love and nurture one another and ourselves. A great group of girlfriends can build our confidence and increase our compassion for others.
We’ve all been there, butterflies in the stomach, palms begin to sweat, and just feeling on edge. This may happen right before giving a big speech, before stepping up to the plate in the bottom of the 9th, or while leisurely walking around the mall. Throughout my years, I’ve heard many older adults say “oh no, I don’t drive on the expressway, I got bad nerves” or “I didn’t sleep good last night, I got bad nerves”. I always knew what they meant, but as I reached adulthood, I wondered if they knew they were feeling anxious.
Life moves super-fast and it’s easy to just go through the motions as you try to keep up. Technology and social media have given us shortcuts to managing life and engaging with people. While convenient and sometimes necessary, are we really getting more done or spending meaningful time with those we love. Our energy is spread amongst multiple things so that no one thing or person gets our full attention. Our lives are filled with quantity, but what about quality?
There’s no handbook on being a mother and you’ve heard the phrase mothers “wear their heart on their sleeves”. Motherhood is a vulnerable time for women. They are filled with so much love for their child and fighting the reality that they cannot control everything their child sees, hears, or touches. Before motherhood, a walk in the park was relaxing and fun and filled with beauty. After having children, you identify 15 ways your child could get injured at the park while you try to relax and enjoy the beauty of the park.
At some point in our lives we have all felt sad or depressed. This may be in response to normal life stressors such as loss of a loved one, divorce, or financial difficulties. For many, the feeling of sadness is proportionate to the event and dissipates without disruption of normal daily living. Others however, experience depressed mood and depressive symptoms, lasting many days to weeks, which cause significant impairment in their daily functioning. This is likely more than sadness and could be clinical depression. In the U.S., about 14.8 million adults suffer from major depression, according to the National Institute of Mental Health.
5 Ways to Defeat the Monday Work Blues
It’s 5pm on a Friday and life is good. You’re ready to get the weekend started and take a much needed break from work. Over the weekend you hang out with friends, have dinner with family, and just kick back. Then Sunday around 4pm it starts to hit you. You begin to think about all the things you need to do at work and how your plan to “take work home over the weekend” did not go as planned, who are we kidding, it didn’t go at all. Your workbag is in the same place you put it Friday evening. Now you feel guilty and somehow behind at work already. This now turns into feelings of anxiety and dreading having to go to work the next day. You even go so far to fantasize about quitting your job as a means to rid yourself of the anxious feelings. Okay maybe that’s too far, but you really think about taking a sick day. Pretty soon, your Sunday evening is ruined by your scorn for Monday and now you’re upset with yourself for wasting the last hours of your weekend. It’s a vicious cycle that gets the best of many of us.
Autumn Collier, LCSW is a psychotherapist at Collier Counseling, LLC in Atlanta, GA. She works with teenagers and young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, and relationship issues.